No matter what life we lead we will always encounter situations in which we have to deal with negativity, it is unavoidable and a part of life. However, how we deal with negativity is completely within our control. If we feel overwhelmed with our own emotions, by our surroundings or by other people then it’s time to reconsider how we can be more positive and protect ourselves from negativity.
Start with your mind
The best way to combat negativity is with positivity! First of all it is important to embrace mindfulness, which is easier than you might think. With mindfulness we can identify and manage our patterns of thought. In becoming more aware of these patterns we can stop ourselves from continuing them, changing our perspective to a positive one i.e. rather than wishing we lived in a bigger house, we can decide to be grateful for having a house to live in. Changing our patterns of thought is not easy as they can be quite deeply rooted, but our mind is our greatest tool for defending ourselves from negativity. What we put out we attract, so if we think negatively we attract negativity so think positive and attract positivity!
Create a space for important things
Often we have the best intentions and try to take on the burdens of the world, trying to help everyone and take responsibility for everything. In the end we have to let go and surrender that not everything is within our control. We have to help people and help the world but not to the detriment of ourselves. We have to balance giving and receiving. Be sure to find time to spend doing the things you love and with the people that make you happy. In this space we allow ourselves to be happy which is imperative because we can only do so much for others if we ourselves are not happy.
Unfortunately, at times we may have no choice but to be around negative people, whether it be in the workplace or even within our own families. For those outside of our family we can allow ourselves to be passive, not to engage in their negativity. It can be easy to fall into arguments with people like this as we may become frustrated by their negative opinions or complaining but for these people it can be best to not even discuss issues as there may be no reasoning with them. Just keeping these kinds of people at arms length is a good idea, not letting them affect our happiness!
For our families it is slightly more difficult as we have an emotional connection and want to be able to help and change them. It is important to always be there for and support our families but we still have to set boundaries and not take full responsibility for our family members problems or responsibilities as we can become completely bogged down by them, their problems become our problems and they constantly unload their problems onto us with no impetus to change. No matter what, people always have to be empowered to take responsibility for their own lives.
Focus on yourself
It’s perfectly okay to focus on yourself from time-to-time; it doesn’t mean you’re being selfish! After all, if you don’t love yourself, how can you love somebody else? So if you’ve had a stressful day, allow yourself to relax and rejuvenate, eat well and give yourself some me-time! Whether it be taking a bath or going out for a meal, we have to take care of ourselves to be able to take care of others.
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